2 Years Post Op!

[Bridget]

So I have just celebrated my 2 yr post op on March 21st.

This is my question...more like help me. I feel like I am lose touch with the plan I have put about 15-20 pounds back on since Nov.

I have been in a realationship and I am getting comfy with eating..if you know what I mean. I am now in the situation where I feel horrible, I hate that I went back up in jean size and that I look the way I do.

Please some one help any suggestions? is a little weight gain normal some say you get to your lowest then put some on and then level out. I have a lot of extra skin and also was think of the tummy tuck but now I don't know what to do I want to sew my lips shut. My boyfriend says he loves me no matter what and he doesn't care..he doesn't really understand he is supportative of what I want but wants me to be healthy and happy..He is also Italian and loves to eat...

[Jamie]

Hi Bridget,

Congrats on your two year anniversary!

It sounds like you are having some trouble and need some advice. I don't know if I can help because I am only about 10 months out and I had the lapband, but most of the issues are pretty closely related to both procedures.

My first question is, do you attend the support group meetings? They are such a vital part of keeping in touch with with problems and seem to help motivate you to keep going in the right direction. The people that attend these meetings have had almost any problem that has come up, and can offer advice that has been experienced by them. They will stop at nothing to help anyone who is in need.

Another very important point is to keep up with your appointments and always tell Dr. Allam what problems you seem to be having at the moment so he can offer help from his vast knowledge of things that can arise post-op.

I hope this has helped in some way, and please just keep posting and let everyone know how you are making out.

If anyone else is reading this and has something else to offer, please post it so others may benefit from it. If there is one person having a problem, there probably is someone else going through it also.

Please keep us posted,

Jamie

[cchheeffyy]

Bridget,

Jim here. I had the band on the 17th of march and have lost about 28# FAST!!
BUT have slowed down in the last couple of days and seemed to have stopped at that weight. So I saw your post and thought I maybe could give a couple of words.

I don't like that word PLAN...The only thing that I plan to do in life is die..(unfortunatly)

I try too think of this whole process as a goal or maybe even a CHANCE..And when I say chance I mean a chance at 38 years old too have the tools and opertunity to FINALLY be able to reach a weight where I can feel comfortable.

BUT along this NEW journey I'm SURE I will hit bumps,lumps and stumps in the road that at some time will affect me and MY chances to reach this.

I'm sure that there will be times that you have to look at the big picture and say" WOW that was a bump, BUT time to move on"

Don't be afaid too let your friends, family and that special someone konw how you feel and what you need to feel.They will understand and will help.

I hope this helps and I did'nt sound to rah rah ish.

JIM aka cchheeffyy

P.S. where is the freakin spell check?????????

[Bridget]

Thank you so much Jamie and Jim...Its been a long hard road. after losing weight becoming health, I find out the man I was with for ten yrs love his....Fat..Overweight partner, and left. It has been a very bumpy rd after that I had gone thru roomates to keep my home then had to sell my home oh and still have to consentrate on being healthy....in the last yr I have had to go back for a hernia surgery and found out that three of my four heart valves have leaks and although I have been reassured that they are so small that my cardio. is not concerened it has been stressful. Now I find I go to food for comfort. forgetting hey I had this life changeing procedure I can't eat like this..but I do big spoon full of mashed potateos and to sslices of bread mabey two pieces of chicken...and then feel like crap why did I do that why didn't I stop. I didn't feel full or was I eating so fast I didn't notice....I need to regroup and I feel lost. I was 320 pre-op got to 170 and now at 190. First of all let me say that I have a wonderful supportive boyfriend now who tells me all the time he loves me for whats inside and doesn't care I put a few lbs back on....He doesn't understand..LOL but I can say I am disappointed with my self. I look in the mirror and don't like what I see..I am a shy person meetings I never went to I am to timid to meet new people..Its nice to talk here cause I don't have to look any one in the face...I feel like I failed Dr. Allam..he gave me the CHANCE and I blew it now I eat as little as possible and walk every afternoon....I don't know how to motivate my self I feel like a failure really would love to crawl under my blankets...I hate this pitty party and want to change...how. I started taking appitie surpressors to try help durning the bay b-12 popin it to increase metob. I do just want to say thank you for all that reply it does help.

[Jamie]

Bridget,

You sound like you are getting on the right track now. The first step is to realize you have a problem in the first place, and you have already acknowledged that. You are lucky now to have a partner that loves you for being you, and that is a big step in the right direction. This fact alone should help you start to want to take care of yourself that much more, and even though he loves you the way you are, tell him that you want to be healthier so you can be around longer for the both of you.

I also realize that you say you are shy and wouldn't like going to the meetings, but all of the people at the support group have jumped through all of the same hoops that you have and been through many of the same problems. Believe me when I say that they are a great group and will stop at nothing to come to the aid of anyone in need. I honestly believe that coming to the meeting would help you and motivate you to start heading in the right direction again. You could also bring your partner and he could be there for comfort and solice if you needed it. The support group is a very important part of the success and follow through of the weightloss procedure, and I really believe you wouldn't feel uncomfortable if you tried it once or twice. If you were to try it and still didn't like it and for some reason deceided to opt out, then at least you gave it a fair shake and could at least said you tried.

You need to look at your accomplishments, too. From what you told us, you are still down 130 pounds and that is wonderful. You are presently hitting a bump in the road, but you now realize it and are trying to correct it and that is a good thing also. Please consider coming to the support group meeting on Tuesday April 15th at 6pm seeing that you would be new to them. I promise you that you won't regret it.

Hope this helped in some way,

Jamiesx

[Bridget]

Thanks Jamie...

I will be there tonight and as of right now my boyfriend says he wants to come...I do have to say I am nervous being two yrs out I prob. should have been thee a long time ago but I do realize I need to stp this I am on a dangerous road and need to get off..Hope to meet you tonight
Bridget

[QUEEBELL]

I'm happy to hear you will be there tonight. My name is Isabel and I am 4 and a half months out. I can empathise with your problems as I too was an emotional eater. I'm sure many of us in the group have and do deal with what you are going through right now. I look forward to meeting you.

Isabel